Showing posts with label communication. Show all posts
Showing posts with label communication. Show all posts

Issues with Communication regarding our Petitions

by Midnight Freemason Guest Contributor
Jim Stapleton



When I submitted my petition to become a Freemason, I was filled with excitement. Personally, I didn’t know much about Freemasonry. Some Brothers are fortunate enough to have close friends or familial relationships that serve as their introduction to the Fraternity. Most of what I knew I had read online, and I wasn’t sure how much of it was even true. I was truly in the dark about the Fraternity, but I was eager to get started!


I went online and requested information through my Grand Lodge. I was referred to a local Lodge for further assistance. I promptly asked the Lodge Secretary what I needed to do to join. We arranged a time for me to pick up a petition. I enthusiastically completed the petition and proceeded to hand it in. I couldn’t wait for what would come next.


A week went by and I didn’t hear anything from the Lodge. Another week went by without any news. Weeks turned into months and still nothing. I began to wonder if there was something wrong with my application. Perhaps I gave an answer they didn’t like? Maybe one of my references said something bad about me? Did the Lodge just look at the petition and decide that I wasn’t worthy to join?


I finally received a call from the Lodge Secretary about two and a half months after I submitted my petition. He asked if I would be available to go through the Entered Apprentice Degree a couple of weeks later. I was thrilled that I heard back and that I was going to begin the journey. 


When I handed in my petition, I had no idea how long the process could take. Now, my time in Freemasonry has given me more insight. Petitions need to be read in Lodge, investigations need to happen, and ballots need to be held. The time of the year when a petition is received by a Lodge can certainly delay the process. For example, many Lodges do not hold business in July and August, and there are limits on what can be done to move a petition forward. Through the lens of an experienced Mason, I can understand why it took a while before I was able to be initiated. However, I have spoken with Brothers from other Lodges over the years and discovered that some of them waited far longer to hear back after submitting their petitions. This causes me to wonder if more could be done to develop relationships with potential members while they wait for initiation?


I believe that Lodges should make a concerted effort to engage with prospective members. Communication is vitally important. Checking in periodically with a petitioner can help to show that the Lodge is still interested, and provide an opportunity to answer any questions that arise. If your Lodge has dinner before meetings and Degrees, you can invite petitioners to dine with the Brethren. This is an excellent way to get acquainted with petitioners in a relaxed setting. If your Lodge has community service events, invite prospective members to attend. In addition to lending a hand, the opportunity will help them feel involved. We should be trying to strengthen connections between the petitioner and the Lodge to make them feel valued. Reaching out to a potential member does not take a lot of time or effort, but it could mean a world of difference to them.


(It would be remiss of me if I didn’t mention that our Lodge’s current Secretary is outstanding and I am not directing any negativity towards him.)



Jim Stapleton is the Senior Warden of USS New Jersey Lodge No. 62. He is also a member of the New Jersey Lodge of Masonic Research and Education No. 1786. Jim received the Distinguished White Apron Award from the Grand Lodge of New Jersey. He was awarded the Daniel Carter Beard Masonic Scouter Award. Jim is also a member of the Society of King Solomon.

How Will They Know If You Don’t Tell Them?

by Midnight Freemason Contributor
Bro. Randy Sanders



I always run late and miss the interfaith service on the morning of the Grand Master’s Breakfast.  I don’t know why, but it seems to be a tradition now.  I may just keep that tradition and skip the Sunday service although I hear it’s nice.  The breakfast and fellowship never disappoint, and I seem to find my way to the St. Louis Moolah Shrine Temple about the time the service ends each year just in time to shake some hands and be seated at my lodge’s table. 

This year being no exception, it was a nice cool, rainy break from a run of near or over 100-degree days as I pulled into the mostly full large parking lot.  I knew I would see some of my favorite Brethren from all over the state, and sure enough, they drove sometimes hours and hours to gather for the event.  This year all three youth organizations banded together for the first time to assist in serving the breakfast, and it was nice to see all three orgs working together seamlessly.  The Shriners were fantastic as always and very welcoming in opening up the large hall for the breakfast.  I have the utmost respect and appreciation for the Shriners even though it doesn’t seem to be my path in Masonry.  I encourage all Masons to do a deeper investigation into the Shrine to see if it fits with their path.  The programming was good and moved quickly through many introductions to the speaker and then closing remarks, and a few of us retired to a local cigar lounge for additional fellowship and lofty conversation over beverages of choice. 

Seems fairly pedestrian, right?  Most of us experience some form of Masonic event across regional or even state boundaries, right?  Well, no, and I hope to make this point:  Many don’t know all Masons are welcome and encouraged to attend these functions.  I know many Masons that have never visited even a neighboring Lodge, and that makes me a little sad.  We must communicate and encourage others to attend these events and especially attend events like our Grand Lodge communications.  I often hear those events are for “apron chasers” who belong to all the organizations, or that these events are for officers and those “chasing gold” by wanting to be appointed to higher offices.  Believe me when I say that’s not the case.  Yeah, I suppose we do have a fair number of Brothers who do chase the gold, but that’s no different than any organization, right?  It took me a few years to get past my preconceptions to understand attendance to Grand Lodge functions helps demonstrate your voice, and your voice is important.  Your voice is certainly as important as mine, and probably more so!  

I also had to come to my own realization about those chasing the gold as I used to think the same thing.  I admit I had a jaded view of organizational management when I joined the Craft, and that initial bias carried over to sarcasm and even some dismissive views toward Grand Lodge at the regional and state levels.  After all, what and who were these people to me?  I found out differently as I met and spoke with these fine gentlemen who give up so much time with family and friends in order to serve the Fraternity.  Yeah, we may occasionally get a Grand Master here and there in some jurisdictions that may not be the best, but I found that to be a rarity.  We in Missouri are very fortunate to have a very strong Grand Line both past and present, and I am excited for the future of the Craft.  If you will take the time to talk to your Grand Line officers, your Masonic experience will be enriched.  Taking the time to engage and work with your Grand line officers, or simply showing up at functions to show support makes a difference.  

My Grand Line officers know I’m not chasing aprons nor interested in ever becoming a Grand Line appointee.  How do they know that?  I told them.  I just don’t see Masonic administrative leadership as being my path in Freemasonry when my focus remains on helping others through education, communication, and mentoring.  I also told these same Grand Line officers they could count on me if needed or as needed to get things done.  These private conversations with the Grand Line officers pay off in ways we may never see.  By making our interests known, by making our voices heard, by showing up and simply having a good time in fellowship with our Brethren, we set many wheels in motion behind the scenes.  If you want to serve on committees or serve in other ways, how will they know if you don’t tell them?  If you want to support your Grand Lodge but not serve on committees or by appointment, how will they know if you don’t tell them?  If you are able to provide Brotherly Love, Relief, and Truth in some way to your District, Region, or Grand Lodge, how will they know if you don’t tell them?

~RS


Randy and his wife Elyana live near St. Louis, Missouri, USA. Randy earned a Bachelors Degree in Chemistry with an emphasis in Biochemistry, and he works in Telecom IT management. He volunteers as a professional and personal mentor, NRA certified Chief Range Safety Officer and enjoys competitive tactical pistol, rifle, and shotgun. He has 30 plus years teaching Wing Chun Kung Fu, Chi Kung, and healing arts. Randy served as a Logistics Section Chief on two different United States federal Disaster Medical Assistance Teams over a 12 year span. Randy is a 32nd degree KCCH and Knight Templar. His Masonic bio includes past Lodge Education Officer for two symbolic lodges, Founder of the Wentzville Lodge Book Club, member of the Grand Lodge of Missouri Education Committee, Sovereign Master of the E. F. Coonrod AMD Council No. 493, Co-Librarian of the Scottish Rite Valley of St. Louis, Clerk for the Academy of Reflection through the Valley of Guthrie, and a Facilitator for the Masonic Legacy Society. Randy is a founding administrator for Refracted Light, full contributor to Midnight Freemasons, and an international presenter on esoteric topics. Randy hosts an open ongoing weekly Masonic virtual Happy Hour on Friday evenings. Randy is an accomplished home chef, a certified barbecue judge, raises Great Pyrenees dogs, and enjoys travel and philosophy.